Tip #14 – Dr. Willard Harley, a noted psychologist and author, when looking for the key to love in marriage, found that it is all about deposits in our love bank.
When we associate good feelings with a person, we deposit ‘love notes’, but when we associate bad feelings with that person, we withdraw love notes.
In the early stages of a relationship, both people make lots of deposits and as a result fall in love.
All too often, after a few years or more of marriage we begin to make too many withdrawals: we stop complimenting each other; we criticize each other in public; we spend less time together as a couple as children arrive. Romantic love changes because we forget to make love deposits.
The largest deposits in our love banks occur when we have our emotional needs met.
Try making some deposits into your spouses love bank and you will reap some great rewards.